The Bump 7/1/15

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TEAM DAD’s Weekly Bump

Stories and blogs about fathers, fatherhood, and all kinds of other dadstuff.

 

 

In India, Dads are posting selfies with their daughters to show their value:
Daddy-Daughter Selfies

In Seattle, a dad created a Minecraft tournament league that plays in movie theaters: Minecraft at the Movies

In Los Angeles, former gang members are embracing fatherhood:
Project Fatherhood

Stats show that marriage brings out the best in dads:
Dad and Marriage

The Good Men Project with seven things to avoid that hurt relationships
7 Relationship Mistakes

The Bump 6/24/15

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  • TEAM DAD’s Weekly Bump
  • Stories and blogs about fathers, fatherhood, and all kinds of other dadstuff.

 

~ Experienced travel writer gives good travel advice for families:                                Travel Like the Brady Bunch

~ Columnist Greg Doyal gives a glimpse into Indiana hoops passion and fatherhood: Father’s Day Tale

~Who would you like to be your movie dad?  Here are a few favorites:                       Best Big Screen Dads

~Bengal’s Devon Still – love of daughter trumps football:                                  Fatherhood Means Everything To Me

~More Pro Athletes who put fatherhood first:                                                                Pros Say Fatherhood Has Changed Their Lives

~President Obama opens up about being a dad in the White House:                           First Dad

~ Ashton Kutcher, Channing Tatum and others on being daddy:                                     Celebrity Dads Speak Out

A Father’s Hand

It’s a work in progress.  A simple pen and ink sketch of two hands touching.  A large, calloused hand and a small, soft, gentle one.

Two Hands Touching drawn by an incarcerated father

Two Hands Touching drawn by an incarcerated father

All the yearning of a father is expressed in those simple lines.  Along with the pure innocence and trust of a child.

It was drawn by an inmate in the Jefferson County Jail.

 An inmate who is also a dad. 

A dad wishing he could spend Father’s Day (or any day for that matter) with his family.

A dad who aches to hold the hand of his child.

Many dads will spend this weekend away from their kids.  There are a number of reasons for this:  divorce, separation, estrangement, bad choices, even incarceration.

In America 1 in 3 children live apart from their biological fathers.

When dad is not involved in the life of his child – everyone suffers.

TEAM DAD has worked with hundreds of men in local county jails:

Dads who’ve made mistakes, but now realize how their choices hurt their families. 

Dads who feel the pain of being apart from their kids.

 Dads who want to be better men – better fathers.

For those guys, Father’s Day is another painful reminder of what they are missing out on.

Each of them, like the beautiful sketch of two hands touching, is a work in progress.

And so are we all.

Father’s Day Reflection

At TEAM DAD Father’s Day is a big deal.

picnic dadIt’s a day our culture sets aside to do what we try to do all year long – encourage and honor dads.  A day during which we all realize the importance of fathers and their role within the family.

Amid the opening of new power tools and coffee cups, with the smell of barbecue in the air, each dad has a chance to reflect and ask himself:

                                How am I doing as a father?

TEAM DAD helps guys answer that question honestly all through the year.   Our free Fathering Connection Classes help guys who wonder:

What does it mean to be a Man?  Am I good enough?

How can I get along with the mother of my children? What does she want from me?  How can I earn her respect?

What does it even mean to be a “good” dad?  How can I help my kids be happy and successful?

cocke co fcGuys don’t naturally gather in groups and share their thoughts and feelings.

 We get that.

But maybe we should do more of it, because something pretty cool happens when men realize  we all struggle with these and other questions and none of us really have it all figured out.  Sometimes the very act of asking leads us to answers.

Contact TEAM DAD at 423-318-6914 to join the TEAM and together we will become the fathers our kids deserve.

One-Thousandth Dad Joins TEAM!

Austin Turner is a special kind of father.  You might even say he is one in a thousand.

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Austin Turner (center) is presented a ‘game ball’ by DCEA Executive Director Susan Luker and TEAM DAD Director Richard Beaty

  Turner is the one-thousandth man to join TEAM DAD since the program began four years ago. He takes his place alongside other  East Tennessee fathers who have already made the commitment to improve their parenting skills.

  TEAM DAD is a federally-funded Responsible Fatherhood project of Douglas-Cherokee Economic Authority, Inc. The program helps dads find jobs, links guys to community resources and presents free parenting classes that touch on issues common to all men. DCEA Executive Director Susan Luker and TEAM DAD Program Director Richard Beaty presented Turner with an autographed “game ball” to mark the occasion at the agency’s headquarters in Morristown. Beaty is proud of reaching the milestone and thinks Turner is a good representative of the dads who have joined the team. “Austin and the 999 guys before him are all dedicated dads who have pledged to become the kind of men their kids deserve,” said Beaty. “Every time a dad wins, so does a kid.” Those interested in more information or to refer someone to the program can call 423-318-6914.  TEAM DAD is offered in six counties:  Hamblen, Cocke, Grainger, Jefferson, Sevier and Monroe. The Responsible Fatherhood project is funded by the United States Department of Health and Human Services, Administration for Children and Families.  Participation is voluntary and the services are available to all eligible persons, regardless of race, gender, disability, or religion.

Kids Cookin’ With Chef Daddy

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chefdaddylinkedTEAM DAD partnered with the Hamblen County Health Department to provide a unique cooking event for dads and their children.  Participants prepared a delicious, healthy meal and then got to enjoy it together.  Everyone also got a lesson on healthy menu choices.

 The food was provided by Food City and the event was hosted by Central Services.

On the menu were Perfect Pita Pizzas and Yummy Yogurt Parfaits.  Here are the recipes:

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The Perfect Pita Pizzas only cost $1.85 per serving and the parfaits only $1.04!

Nutritional Information Per Serving:

Pizza –  300 calories, 3 grams of fat, 17 grams of protein, 45 grams of carbohydrates and 6 grams of dietary fiber

Parfait – 150 calories

So not only was the meal delicious, it was healthy and inexpensive too!

 

Wisdom From the “Inside”

Tdad said itEAM DAD often shows the guys who take our classes videos as teaching tools.  Several are PSAs created for www.fatherhood.gov that show dads doing unusual activities like this:  Cheerleader Dad Video

After showing one such video recently to a class of dads in the Sevier County Jail, one of the dads had this to say:

No matter how silly it makes you look, to put a smile on your child’s face is priceless!

Well said!  And proof that wise dads can be found everywhere.

What are you willing to do to put a smile on your child’s face?

 

Kids & Money

For countless families, the thought of finances and budgeting can be daunting. Many people would just prefer to not even know how their money is spent for fear of realizing that they might be worse off than they even assumed. More so than that, the thought of teaching their kids to understand budgeting only builds on that stress!

piggybankkidEstablishing a household budget and learning to manage money is much more likely to reduce your stress than to increase it. The unknown is the most intimidating factor of all.  It is both liberating and encouraging to know that you are in control of your money and you are the one that determines how it is spent.

Teaching your children how to manage money is not only beneficial for them, but also helps to alleviate stress in your own life. Helping children to understand finances sets them up for both present and future success, while also steering them towards financial independence.

Dennis Miller, the Senior Editor of Miller’s Money Forever, outlines five strategic practices to help Fathers teach their children financial wisdom:

Set Expectations Early “When baby boomers were growing up, they were expected to go to college and then move out on their own. Mom and dad made that crystal clear by about fifth grade and helped their kids prepare.”

Make Independence the Goal  “Parents need to make independence the more attractive choice.”

Teach Good Financial Habits Early “It’s never too early to start showing children how to earn their own way. At what point do you stop handing out no-strings attached allowances and assign chores to make them earn that money?”

Saving is a Must “When your children earn money from chores or little jobs and when they receive money as gifts, help them put a certain percentage in savings.”

Be a Financial Mentor “She wasn’t calling to ask for money, she was asking for advice. I thought later about what a disservice I would have done to her marriage if I had helped financially.”

To read the entire post by Dennis Miller, click here: 5 Financial Keys to Fatherhood, Not Friendship

 

 

 

Easy Ways To See More A’s

dadreadingDad, you want your child to enjoy and be successful in school, right?

Of course you do.  Every parent wants to raise happy, successful kids.  There’s a lot of information and resources out there trying to tell you how to do just that.  Much of it seems really complicated.  But it doesn’t have to be.

In a recent blog post, National Fatherhood Initiative President Chris Brown suggests “there are five easy ways dads can get involved (in their children’s education) that really matter:”

  1. Read daily to a young child. Children who learn to read well at an early age are more likely to succeed in school.
  2. As your child ages, encourage him to ask critical questions. Asking lots of questions and challenging the status quo becomes more valuable to children as they move into higher levels of education.
  3. Set clear expectations and then take a back seat. Talk to her regularly about your expectations, and guide and support her as she finds her own path to success.
  4. Help your child get into classes with good teachers. More than choosing the right courses, what matters most is who teaches those courses.
  5. Encourage your child to do homework in groups and with friends who succeed in subjects your child struggles in (or in which your child just needs a little help every now and then.

Brown notes that while most of these suggestions are activities that can be done at home, being involved in school activities is still a great idea:

A landmark study by the U.S. Department of Education found that children in two-parent families and of non-resident fathers who were highly involved in their children’s education were  more likely to get mostly A’s and enjoy school. They were also less likely to repeat a grade than children with fathers who had low or no involvement. Even when dads don’t live with their children, it’s clear that their involvement matters to academic achievement.

To read the entire post and find links to other father-friendly advice check out: 5 Ways To Get Involved In Your Child’s Education